Today’s meditation: Taking responsibility for our part in things
The philosophy of making amends isn’t about apologizing for every problem. It’s about figuring out how a relationship or situation went wrong, determining the part I played in it, and simply doing what I can to make it right. It is a way to remind myself that I should continue to strive to think before I speak.
Making amends frees me from carrying useless guilt and shame. When I feel these emotions, it’s a signal to me that something is amiss. Asking my Savior for guidance, or talking things out with a trusted friend helps me determine what is mine–and what belongs to others. At the end of the day, an apology when I am wrong is a gift I give myself.
I am Mitch Mayne. I am an openly gay, active Latter-day Saint.
I was raised in Idaho, and baptized into the Mormon Church when I was eight. I left the church for many years, due in large part to my parent’s divorce. In my mid-20s, I returned to the church of my own accord, knowing full well that I was gay, and that someday I would have to find a way to reconcile my sexual orientation with my faith.
For many years, I was fractured: I believed I was a man with a foot in two worlds, and that I belonged in neither. But as I’ve grown in my testimony of my Savior and my confidence in who I am, I’ve come to understand myself as a man with a foot in two worlds–who very much belongs in both. From August 2011 through November of 2013, I served as the executive secretary of the bishopric of the Bay Ward within the San Francisco Stake.
I currently remain an active, happy and whole gay Mormon–just the way I am.