I’ve come to appreciate the peace found in the serenity prayer. When I apply it to people, places, and situations I ask my Savior to grant me the wisdom to know the difference between things I can change–and those I cannot. Once upon a time, I was unable to distinguish the difference, and when I look back at my behavior I think I actually had it completely backwards. I spent most of my time trying to manage the outcome of situations that were beyond my ability to even influence, let alone control. And when I endeavored to do so, my spiritual center slipped away–and slipped away rapidly. I was emotionally and spiritually exhausted, irritable, and resentful much of the time.
Today I keep the focus on the things I can change: Me and my attitudes. When I’m spiritually centered, I am much more open to my Savior’s influence, to guide me to a new way of thinking about situations I used to feel compelled to manage. Through quiet prayer, meditation, and talking things through with trusted friends I can uncover what I am supposed to learn from a given situation, what belongs to me, what belongs to others, and most importantly what belongs to my Savior. A final important step for me is to ask my Savior to grant others all the peace, serenity, and joy I want for myself. We all deserve that.
I am Mitch Mayne. I am an openly gay, active Latter-day Saint.
I was raised in Idaho, and baptized into the Mormon Church when I was eight. I left the church for many years, due in large part to my parent’s divorce. In my mid-20s, I returned to the church of my own accord, knowing full well that I was gay, and that someday I would have to find a way to reconcile my sexual orientation with my faith.
For many years, I was fractured: I believed I was a man with a foot in two worlds, and that I belonged in neither. But as I’ve grown in my testimony of my Savior and my confidence in who I am, I’ve come to understand myself as a man with a foot in two worlds–who very much belongs in both. From August 2011 through November of 2013, I served as the executive secretary of the bishopric of the Bay Ward within the San Francisco Stake.
I currently remain an active, happy and whole gay Mormon–just the way I am.